Beyond The Melody

I’m an ardent music lover. In fact I don’t think I can survive without music. I love all music genres… R&B, soul, pop, rock, jazz, hip hop, reggae, country… just name it. My husband once commented that he didn’t think I was “into rap”. But while I may favour some genres over others, the fact still remains that I can listen to anything music… you can sift through the playlist on my phone to confirm. I always say I don’t have a best song… I can have a new best song every week…  😀 That’s how I am when it comes to music.

Now even though I’m so passionate about music, I never compromise on one key thing: The Lyrics. It must make sense (at least to me) and must inspire me towards positive actions, thoughts and choices. Because I like Rap, does not mean I’ll go bopping my head to Rap songs that go on and on about drugs, sex and violence and I cannot carry my love for Pop as far as to have lady Gaga’s songs on my phone (abi what’s her music type sef? Pop shebi?)

Wait first nah… I hear you asking a question loaded with skepticism. You’re probably asking “so Lahmeet, you mean to tell us that all that it takes for you to like a song is the lyrics?”

Well, no… I admit that the melody and the beats of a song play a role too, but the point I’m stressing here is that the lyrical content of a song is the primary determinant of whether a song will be worth my time or not. The melody is just secondary…

Let’s look at it as Lyrics versus Melody… Content versus Packaging…

I chuckle inwardly (when I’m in a polite mood) when some ladies state their specs of a dream guy. They go something like “I want a fiiiiiine guy…. He must be tall, dark and handsome (TDH)…” and I’m like “o…k anything else?” and they are like “Ha! He must be fine o, I don’t want my kids to be ugly”. *Rolling my eyes* I kid not! In fact I had a friend in university who used to judge her toasters based solely on their looks! “He’s too short… He has a big nose… His dimples are not deep enough… He walks one kain…” Hian! Ok nah… I thought it was just school mentality that was worrying her, until we graduated and it still remained her yardstick. At last she had to wake up and smell the coffee! Now she’s married to a responsible young man who is NOT tall, dark and handsome…but he’s not a toad-face either.

I’m not saying looks are not important o, but you sef think about it. Would you rather marry a wife beater just because he has six pack and impressive biceps? Omo, those biceps would come in handy in pounding  you wella! And if you seriously think a woman’s hour glass figure and firm boobs are gonna remain that way forever, you seriously need to wake up from la la land.

Abeg get your priorities right… It’s expected that the attractive package would attract us first, but it may very well be a beautiful covering for an ugly character. It’s only wise to consider the content/character of a person before you go swooning over looks. Get this truth: The character of a person is more enduring than their looks.

Do you know how many women are spiritually broken and physically battered by the men they only got with because of status and looks? Do you know how many “ballers” go broke because all their money went into the divorce of a woman they only married because of looks?

And enough with all the stereotyping sef… who says “TDH” is the definition for attractiveness, ehn? Mills&Boon tinz joor!

So… do tell, are you melodically or lyrically inclined? 😀