provs 31 man

Isn’t it funny how folks have always centered on the Proverbs 31 woman? In fact for as long as I’ve been a Christian and attended Bible study, whenever this scripture is read, it’s always accompanied by numerous accolades and how women should emulate her virtuous ways….

Now I’m not about to cast aspersions on this worthy role model. Indeed, I have gleaned many examples and tips from her lifestyle and I am the better for it… just ask my husband :D….

But in all of our hurry to applaud the woman, have we ever stopped to consider the man she had by her side? Have we ever given a thought to the rock that supported her in achieving all these noble feats?

Yes, have we ever acknowledged the Proverbs 31 man?

I’ve been thinking about the Proverbs 31 man lately. In fact since last year before I got married, he’s been on my mind and my fingers and busy brain have been itching to write an article in his honor…. Then I got married 🙂  … to a Proverbs 31 man. Yup, I guess you could conclude that he’s the inspiration behind this post….

So just what is special about the Proverbs 31 man? Guys, listen up! Be that man…. Ladies pay attention! Be with that man…

  1. He encourages his woman. Yup, he encourages her to be all those wonderful things we see in the Proverbs 31 woman. Me thinks that if he had not given her room to cultivate her dreams, she would never had featured in the Good book
  2. He trusts her. There is something about trust that spurs a person to greater heights. Knowing that I have my husband’s trust, makes me want to even do more to keep his trust. The Proverbs 31 man trusted his lady. This I believe was one of the reasons for her success.
  3. He does not micromanage her affairs. He is not constantly looking over her shoulders and meddling… sorry… “helping her out” at every single turn.
  4. He treats her as an equal. He admits that she has a brain and is capable of being her own person…not standing in his shadow or sitting around twiddling her thumbs and waiting for him to think for her.
  5. He is a leader (NOT a commandant). He is of noble character and respected by all. He is not an agbero. He is an inspiring, exemplary role model to her; capable of teaching her and adding value to her life through his lifestyle.
  6. He praises her. He does not hold anything back when it comes to praising her and acknowledging her success. He appreciates her even for the “mundane” chores she does in the home. He generously dishes out the compliments when she has on a new hairstyle or dress. He recognizes her efforts and constantly cheers her on.  This makes her succeed even more…
  7. He loves her. He loves her like he does his own body… He prefers her amongst all other women and he shows this in special ways… a look… a smile… a touch… He sees it this way: “she’s a part of me and the more she advances, the better it reflects on me.”

I smile as I type this post because I’ve got all of these in my husband, my very own Proverbs 31 man. Yup, I know… I am indeed blessed! 😀

I’d sure love to hear from you, as always. What other virtues do you think are found in a Proverbs 31 man? Do tell…


About Lahmeet

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38 Responses to THE PROVERBS 31 MAN

  1. Nyadu says:

    He is also the Ephesians 5 Man Paul elaborately talked about…he is devoted to her and ensures that her overall well-being comes first…he will willingly give his life in exchange for hers if and when the need arises…the proverbs 31 man must know God to find his proverbs 31 woman.


  2. Ralph says:

    Hmnn, great message, thanks Lahmeet


  3. olatunde says:

    Fantastic anita! Am marrying one august too( wink wink)


  4. Noms says:

    Nice one. . .


  5. seth eunice says:

    Dats true… Nice one.


  6. chasisflowers says:

    Wow! Nice piece..Thx Anita. Kp up d good job!


  7. alpee says:

    He forgives her witout a grudge…. Hmmmmm! The proverbs 31 Man..nice piece Lahmeet.


  8. kaytees says:

    Sooo true!!!! I don’t think the Prov 31 woman would ever reach the peak of her potential,without her “Prov 31” man!!! Nice piece dearie!!!!! Xoxoxoxoxoxo


  9. Agada says:

    Interestingly nice Lahmeet!


  10. Kim says:

    Solomon wrote and/or collected Proverbs and passed that wisdom along to his son(s). He was a well rounded teacher. He taught his son(s) about the disadvantages of being foolish. He admonished his son(s) to exercise wisdom. Then, at the end of Proverbs, he made sure his son(s) understood the description and value of a virtuous wife. In most Christian circles, males are taught to recognize and expect a virtuous wife. Solomon was a very well rounded and thorough teacher. He addressed the responsibilities of BOTH MEN and WOMEN, yet the Christian community often fails to follow Solomon’s teaching example and address both sides. You acknowledged some of those points in your post. I enjoyed that. I want to include the description of the Man of Noble Character found scattered throughout Proverbs.


  11. Kim says:

    Man of Noble Character found scattered throughout Proverbs

    A wise man will hear and increase in learning, And a man of understanding will acquire wise counsel. Pr 1:5
    Reprove a wise man and he will love you. Pr 9:8
    Give instruction to a wise man and he will be still wiser, Teach a righteous man and he will increase his learning. Pr 9:9
    …a man of understanding holds his peace. Pro11:12
    The generous man will be prosperous, And he who waters will himself be watered. Pr 11:25
    A good man will obtain favor from the LORD. Pr 12:2
    A wise man is he who listens to counsel. Pr 12:15
    A prudent man overlooks an insult. Pr 12:16
    A righteous man hates falsehood… Pr 13:5
    Every prudent man acts with knowledge. Pr 13:16
    He who walks with wise men will be wise. Pr 13:20
    A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children. Pr 13:22
    The sensible man considers his steps. Pr 14:15
    A wise man is cautious and turns away from evil. Pr 14:16
    He who is slow to anger has great understanding. Pr 14:29
    A man of understanding walks straight. Pr 15:21
    …he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding. Pr 17:27.
    What is desirable in a man is his kindness. Pr 19:22
    House and riches are the inheritance of fathers Pr 19:14
    A righteous man who walks in his integrity– How blessed are his sons after him. Pr 20:7
    A wise man scales the city of the mighty And brings down the stronghold in which they trust. Pr 21:22
    A prudent man sees danger, and hides himself… Pr 22:3, 27:12
    A wise man is strong, And a man of knowledge increases power. Pr 24:5
    For a righteous man falls seven times, and rises again, But the wicked stumble in time of calamity. Pr 24:16
    A faithful man will abound with blessings, But he who makes haste to be rich will not go unpunished. Pr 28:20
    A fool always loses his temper, But a wise man holds it back. Pr 29:11

    Note: Older translations of the Bible use the words Man or He in these verses, but newer translations may use the word person in these verses.

    Thank you for facilitating such a wonderful discussion and allowing me to take part. God Bless!!!


  12. Princeneth says:

    Hmmmm! Thanks 4adding another perspective 2my life on prov.31. Rili a nyc piece.


  13. Awetu Dimas says:

    Well, I couldn’t have read this piece at a better time than right now… You’re blessed for this inspiration… Love it!! ☺


  14. Sanabu says:

    The Proverbs 31 man is also faithful.Proverbs 20:6 says:”Many a man claims to be loving but a faithful man who can find?”(NIV)
    Thanks Lahmeet 4 d post.More grace.


  15. Laide Eloho-Okiomah says:

    Thanks for the post Anita.being a Godly Man/Husband no be chips oooo,every man who wants to be succesful in life should search thru scriptures and know God’s mind on being a Godly man.I’m grateful I got a Godly man for a husband*dancing*


  16. Khume says:

    Hmmm! Great one Lahmeet.
    The Proverbs 31 man is also very humble and teachable. He is not too proud to admit when he’s wrong and he doesn’t find it difficult to say ‘I’m sorry’

    He is also so proud of his woman, that he easily makes her a topic or centre of discussion especially when he’s with his friends.

    I’m trusting God to connect me with my Proverbs 31 man soonest.


  17. Ann says:

    He knows when she’s hurting & needs help and is always ready to help her not minding what d african culture says it’s for d woman and not minding what people wud say,makes her looks like and feel like a queen and much more….dat’s my husband’s description


  18. lahmeet says:

    🙂 That’s nice to know Ann… God bless you


  19. Bennyz says:

    Wow Anita! Just read this and I’m singing songs of praise to God for my Proverbs 31 Man. hahaha I am super blessed!

    Let me add that he protects her interest and defends her whenever he gets the chance to; especially with In-laws Magana. He is her VOLTRON!! hehehehehe..


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