Relax… Refresh… Revive

Truth is I wanted to blog about this topic some months ago when I declared a “no-chores day” for myself. What’s a no-chores day? It is simply a day I decided I would do no chores! Hehe. Yup! No chores… Now, the difficult part was not about getting The Hubs to actually agree to this. Nah, the difficulty was actually following through and not giving in to my natural organising, take-charge, super-mom-super-wife-do-it-all tendencies! It was hard, I tell ya! But I did it and it was nice to actually put my feet up and do nothing 🙂

So why did I not blog about this blissful experience before today? Well, life happened and I quickly fell back into my normal busy, 24hrs-is-not-enough routine. However, I just had a chat with my cousin who is currently enjoying a break from all the chores and craziness and decided it would be great to dig up the desire to blog about this important topic.

Whilst this is not just peculiar to the women folk, you would agree with me that it seems like all we do is take care of everyone but ourselves. Do I have a witness? Or maybe I should speak for myself (and my cousin)… Life feels like a roller coaster most of the time. There’s my family to cater to – a very active almost 2 year old and a husband to take care of, meals to plan and cook, school runs to do, chores to oversee (if you are finicky like me 🙂 ) PLUS a career … Errr it doesn’t look like much now that I have typed it out, but believe me it’s a lot and there are days when I get so tired and disillusioned.

But what’s a girl to do?

Well, I’m no pro at this but allow me share a few tips that have worked for me

  • Always maintain an attitude of gratitude: Works like a charm for me! When Kiki begins one of her tantrums or I find The Hubs clothes ON the laundry basket (instead of actually being IN it), I just remind myself of how grateful I am to have them. I also remind myself of the many other times they bring me joy. This helps my mood and reorders my murderous thoughts…
  • Ask for help: If you are a perfectionist like me or you feel like things are not done right unless they are done by you or to your specifications, then this tip is for you. I try to tell myself that I am not Wonder Woman, that it is OK to allow The Hubs help me with some chores. So what if the indomie he cooked doesn’t taste the way I like? Nobody ever died from soggy indomie, abi?
  • Take some time off: If you can, give yourself like 1 hour me-time. Well, this is easier said than done sha and I am still working on this particular tip. For example, when Kiki is napping, instead of rushing off to attend to neglected chores, I can catch up on that reading I abandoned or I can listen to some music or engage in something refreshing. Not poring through social media o, well except if that relaxes you (doesn’t work for me). The Hubs and I have also explored the angle of sending Kiki for sleepovers at her aunt’s. This also allows for me-time and/or we-time 😉

I have discovered that for all the times I was stressed, my family suffered the consequences. I became grumpy, grouchy and moody which rubbed off on my family and set the wrong tone for our home. I have come to realise that as the wife and mother, I set the tone in my home. The Hubs and Kiki would rather have a happy and loving wife/mother and a messy house than a spotless house with a grumpy and nagging wife.

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So how do you relax, refresh and revive? Please share 🙂

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23 Responses to Relax… Refresh… Revive

  1. tessadoghor says:

    Hmmm
    Awesome post.

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  2. Benny says:

    Hmmm Anita, there you go again. I really need a ME time!!! Thanks. Be blessed beautiful.

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  3. Dorothy says:

    U hit it babe..dat ‘me’ time is a must-do n I’m taking it personal!lol

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  4. Derin says:

    Hmmmmmmmmmmm….thanks for the tips…such a relief, I don’t have to feel guilty, relaxing. Here’s the prayer for me….don’t overdo it derin! Cos I could comfortably be your opposite…* you’re so hilarious, @ murderous thoughts , hehe*

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  5. Mira Gowon says:

    Awesome tips. I don’t know about every woman but I know most women need help from their significant other, it will take a lot of stress away. Happy wife, happy home!

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  6. Sijuade says:

    This is so true Lahmeet. I can say we have a lot in common but yeah, out of that moodiness, I decided to overlook those chores and get my grooves on. Am glad I read this post, very real.

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  7. zealthinks says:

    Yay she’s back!!!!

    “Whilst this is not just peculiar to the women folk, you would agree with me that it seems like all we do is take care of everyone but ourselves. Do I have a witness? ” ….Yes ma’am…you got a witness here…whoop whoop!!!

    “There’s my family to cater to – a very active almost 2 year old and a HUSBAND(emphasis mine) to take care of…” … errrmmm…hehehehe (No comment) 😀

    “. The Hubs and Kiki would rather a happy and loving wife/mother and a messy house then a spotless house with a grumpy and nagging wife.”…. AMEN!!!!!

    Great piece…thoroughly enjoyed it and lots of lessons for me to pick up and apply too…I feel burnt out at the moment but taking time off is not an option so gotta soldier on till I am over this mountain then hopefully take a well deserved breather!!!

    I hope I will still be able to remember how to relax then… 🙂

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  8. Kaytees18!!!!! says:

    This is soo me…..i can work!! work!!! work!!!! at the expense of sleep and everything else….i am a perfectionist too… with a little OCD so i can completely relate…i think of myself as some sort of superwoman…..#sigh…the tips u gave are so on point….these days i am learning to just “chill”…enjoy the moment…and like you said ask for help…..once in a while tho>>>”my perfectionist nature comes to play”…then i just remind myself “CHILL”……like u said…people cant stand grumpy and “na me dey work pass” kind of people…

    Thanks for this love….God bless u!!!

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  9. sunbo says:

    Nice one dear. You are in the spirit. lol.
    I’m thrilled especially with “Always maintain the attitude of gratitude”. I had a better understanding of this lately and it has really change the tone of my home. It’s been amazing….
    I think I need more time off sha, though just returned from a trip with my hubby without the kids so I really had time to rest. But like you said, I’ll try that 1 hour me-time.

    Thanks for sharing

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  10. sola says:

    Hmmm..Nice take home

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  11. iembergavar says:

    Nice piece babe! I really need to learn to overlook chores. I get home from work telling myself I won’t lift a finger to do anything till the next morning. Next thing I find myself washing a dirty spoon I left out, afterall it’s just one spoon right? Next thing i’m scrubbing away at some pot, Next thing I know i’m still up at 11:30pm making lunch for the next day… Sigh. I need help.

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  12. Anthony says:

    Abeg oh, biko nice one. U can’t do it all n u need the ‘me time’, it helps to to re-up yourself. This write up i can relate to.

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