From “oops!” to “aha…”

Hi there! 😀

Should we dwell on the fact that it’s been ages and ages you read anything here from me?

Right… let’s just kiss, make up and move on, shall we? Lol… truly I’m not being flippant about my long hiatus… It’s just that life has been happening which hasn’t afforded me ample time to share my thoughts here. Whatsapp Stories have been super helpful outlets though…

Anyways I digress… Let’s get to the meat of why I’m making an appearance here today…

I had an oops moment at work recently… Actually, if I’m being honest, it was more than an oops moment; it was more like a can-the-ground-open-up-and-swallow-me event.

What did I do? It was an email typo. Okay…okay… I see you rolling your eyes like “how’s an email typo a major blunder?” Well, my good friend, this email was a very important one charging everyone to imbibe the culture of avoiding errors in carrying out their tasks. Lol… You see the irony abi? And guess what? It was sent to the whole organization!

Typing it out now, it doesn’t seem so bad but lemme tell you, the aftermath of that error ehn…  My boss was mad at me… I was madder at me, like “see this alakoba mistake wants to destroy all my prior good work”. It was not funny o. I’m a very careful and detailed person (almost borderline perfectionist, though I like to consider myself a “retiring perfectionist”  😀 ) so you can imagine how I beat myself up over the mistake.

Anyways, I have cooled off and reflected on lessons to (re)learn from what happened. Allow me to share them with you…

  • Failure is an event and not an individual. Isn’t it funny how we sometimes make our achievements fleeting and somehow define ourselves by our failures? This is also very apparent in human relationships and interactions by how we tend to focus on the shortcomings of others instead of their strengths and good sides. I had to remind myself that I’m an excellent staff who has been doing great work and contributing to the success of my organization. This helped me to move on from the mistake.
  • Be authentic. Accept responsibility for the mistake. Don’t try to deflect it or be defensive about it. Immediately I realised my goof, I sent emails to my boss apologizing for the error. I also made sure I apologized in person. The way I see it, even though I may not earn his trust immediately, I’m willing to bet that I earned his respect for stepping up and owning my mistake.
  • Seek Support. My husband was a solid pillar for me when I was in the can-the-ground-open-up-and-swallow-me phase. His calm reassurance really went a long way in realigning my thoughts. This was after I spoke with God (my ultimate support). Oh, I also sought comfort from my 6 month old baby but I think she was more interested in her milk 😀
  • Make amends. Sometimes (like in my case) the only thing you can do is to apologize. If that’s the case, do so sincerely and profusely. Other times, you may be able to do something to alleviate the situation. Be open and ask for the best way to make amends. Don’t assume.

So that’s it… these are the major lessons I gleaned from the goof. Also, a great reminder to me to always extend grace to myself and others. At least, I’d be empathetic (rather than unconcerned or critical) if another person tows the same line I did. All in all, thank God for grace he extends to us per second… even though undeserved!

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I think this quote just about sums up all the grammar I’ve been blowing 😀

So, over to you… have you had an “oops” moment lately? How did you convert it to an “aha” moment?

xoxo…

About Lahmeet

I love to draw inspiration from everyday happenings. I love to share the inspiration I glean with others. Follow me on Instagram and Twitter @lahmeet
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28 Responses to From “oops!” to “aha…”

  1. O wow. I can’t even imagine. I have not had an oops moment recently but I like the last lesson you wrote. Ask for ways you can make amends. Sometimes we think sorry is enough and that’s not always the case. Welcome back to blogging.

    Faith.

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  2. Abimbola Davids says:

    Oh my!!! As a fellow perfectionist, or rather ‘retiring one…’, I get how you must have felt. Those torturous thoughts of ‘How could i have made that mistake…’ But we truly need to keep telling ourselves that failure is an event… It’s not our definition.

    I particularly like the closing quote, Failure is just a bruise, not a tattoo… waoh!!!
    Thanks Lahmeet for sharing

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  3. Doofan says:

    Mmmm I feel you! A lot of times we either think too highly of ourselves or too lowly of ourselves. “How could you…?!” Or “You shouldn’t have…!
    Being too hard on oneself is condemnation.

    If we learn to see ourselves as God sees us… we’ll find a balance.
    I am not my mistake.

    I really like the lessons. Thanks for sharing.

    Ps: you’re an amazing writer. I enjoyed reading. Let me move on to the others 😉

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    • Lahmeet says:

      Very true,,, Seeing ourselves and others through God’s eyes helps us balance out the extremities. Thank you for reading and thanks for the compliment 🙂

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  4. Happens to the best of us, no one ever wants to be caught in a situation like this but it happens and owning our screw up is the most important thing I believe. Also, dispensing with that sense of entitlement when your apology does not allay your boss’ annoyance (immediately) thinking to yourself how he also makes mistakes too so why is he making a big deal of this, is important. We do not have control of how others react but our actions should be sincere and heartfelt. After that, just move on and be the best you paying more attention to your work without being a freak sha. Well done sisi.

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  5. Highbeekay says:

    Yeah,pls dont assume,ask and make amends……God always provides an opportunity……..i like that part.welldone lahmeet.

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  6. Patience says:

    Hmmmmm……great read. Often times getting over the event can be hard but seeing it as part of a process in growing into becoming better version of ourselves helps. Thank you for sharing lessons learnt. The last point heats Wella…..

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  7. Alpee says:

    As a bubbly Alpee that I used to be, I never imagined that I will one day start the greater part of my career in an academic environment, where there’s hierarchy of respect both in degrees aquired and level. I adjusted with time( this happened with inexperience, mistakes and sorry we no dey ever end joor). Today, I feel like a pro in field of expertise and I still keep the reminder of take one step at a time and mistake will still visit me once a while. Abeg I can not kee myself jare. I had a good read from your write up, I picked the lesson, related at some point to my job and hope to read more from you. Thanks for sharing.

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  8. Bolatito Allo says:

    This just shows that we are human, not above mistakes. I like the part where you apologized and then feel empathy for others.. Thank you for writing this.

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  9. Kay D says:

    The part that resonated deepest was the fact that failure is an event not an individual… this is very very challenging for lost people as we tend to label ourselves by our actions… it actually takes a realization of the fact that you are not your failure to own up to your mistakes… it happens with that mind shift when you realize yes I did that … but that doesn’t make me a fraud… also learnt from apologizing upfront and seeking to make amends…. beautiful and inspiring read!… well done Lahmeet

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  10. Benny says:

    Very insightful read sis. Mistakes affirm our humanity.

    Wow! I knew it’d be a silence buster! I look forward to more! Thanks for sharing.

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  11. mrsjayne says:

    Welcome back Lahmeet!!! You are forgiven. Please don’t starve us this long again o! I love your artistry in mixing humor, sarcasm etc and yet drive home your point. So as humans, making mistakes is inevitable. However, not repeating them/learning from them, is the “koko”. I haven’t been in his boat in recent times, but my advice to a colleague who was, was that for such mails a second person could assist to proofread, before sending it out. Also, I’d like to know at what point you realized the mistake, as recalling the mail, may also reduce the impact on you, if noticed in good time. Thank God for support systems and special grace to move on….as the thought and meditation on the mistake can be draining. Thank you for sharing once again.

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    • Lahmeet says:

      hehehe. My dear plenty people proofread this particular mail o. How we all missed the typo is perplexing. In the end, another mail was sent with the typo corrected.

      Ermmm… about not starving you…. hmmm I will try my best *fingers crossed*

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  12. Miss Biibi says:

    I enjoyed reading your post as usual but the part that really did it for me was “extending Grace to oneself”.

    I think the hardest part of being a near perfectionist is being critical of oneself. We often find that we are more forgiving of others than we are of ourselves and we are quick to criticize ourselves in the most unrelenting way over our little mistakes.
    Even when others forget and move on, we still rebuke ourselves silently in our alone moments wondering why we ever made that mistake.

    We often forget that as men (human specie), we are also fallible and that our mistakes/errors/mishaps don’t define who we are. And that if we through the eyes of mercy can forgive others, we owe much more to ourselves.

    I daily pray for Grace to let things go, to forgive myself and move on, enjoying every moment of the life He died to give me.

    Thank you so much for sharing..

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  13. Marisa says:

    Definitely a good read with a lot of great reminders.
    The last lesson is so apt, so I’m going to be asking a lot more “what can I do to make it right?”

    And I love the quote!… stamped the lessons in my mind.

    Keep writing 💜

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