Hi there! 😀
Should we dwell on the fact that it’s been ages and ages you read anything here from me?
Right… let’s just kiss, make up and move on, shall we? Lol… truly I’m not being flippant about my long hiatus… It’s just that life has been happening which hasn’t afforded me ample time to share my thoughts here. Whatsapp Stories have been super helpful outlets though…
Anyways I digress… Let’s get to the meat of why I’m making an appearance here today…
I had an oops moment at work recently… Actually, if I’m being honest, it was more than an oops moment; it was more like a can-the-ground-open-up-and-swallow-me event.
What did I do? It was an email typo. Okay…okay… I see you rolling your eyes like “how’s an email typo a major blunder?” Well, my good friend, this email was a very important one charging everyone to imbibe the culture of avoiding errors in carrying out their tasks. Lol… You see the irony abi? And guess what? It was sent to the whole organization!
Typing it out now, it doesn’t seem so bad but lemme tell you, the aftermath of that error ehn… My boss was mad at me… I was madder at me, like “see this alakoba mistake wants to destroy all my prior good work”. It was not funny o. I’m a very careful and detailed person (almost borderline perfectionist, though I like to consider myself a “retiring perfectionist” 😀 ) so you can imagine how I beat myself up over the mistake.
Anyways, I have cooled off and reflected on lessons to (re)learn from what happened. Allow me to share them with you…
- Failure is an event and not an individual. Isn’t it funny how we sometimes make our achievements fleeting and somehow define ourselves by our failures? This is also very apparent in human relationships and interactions by how we tend to focus on the shortcomings of others instead of their strengths and good sides. I had to remind myself that I’m an excellent staff who has been doing great work and contributing to the success of my organization. This helped me to move on from the mistake.
- Be authentic. Accept responsibility for the mistake. Don’t try to deflect it or be defensive about it. Immediately I realised my goof, I sent emails to my boss apologizing for the error. I also made sure I apologized in person. The way I see it, even though I may not earn his trust immediately, I’m willing to bet that I earned his respect for stepping up and owning my mistake.
- Seek Support. My husband was a solid pillar for me when I was in the can-the-ground-open-up-and-swallow-me phase. His calm reassurance really went a long way in realigning my thoughts. This was after I spoke with God (my ultimate support). Oh, I also sought comfort from my 6 month old baby but I think she was more interested in her milk 😀
- Make amends. Sometimes (like in my case) the only thing you can do is to apologize. If that’s the case, do so sincerely and profusely. Other times, you may be able to do something to alleviate the situation. Be open and ask for the best way to make amends. Don’t assume.
So that’s it… these are the major lessons I gleaned from the goof. Also, a great reminder to me to always extend grace to myself and others. At least, I’d be empathetic (rather than unconcerned or critical) if another person tows the same line I did. All in all, thank God for grace he extends to us per second… even though undeserved!
So, over to you… have you had an “oops” moment lately? How did you convert it to an “aha” moment?